July 16th 2010

Living Together In Peace

“It is truly wonderful when relatives live together in peace.”
Psalm 133:1 (CEV)

At church they had a special day to celebrate with senior members who were coming up to significant Wedding Anniversaries.  Taking the microphone around the tables the Pastor came to one man looking forward to his 50th.  “What tips can you give to some of us ‘novices’?” he asked the senior.  “Be good to your spouse,” was the reply, “For example, I give her gifts and take her on nice trips.  I took her to Rome on our 25th Wedding anniversary.”  Following the applause the Pastor asked, “What are your plans for your 50th Wedding Anniversary?”  To which the man replied, “Why, I’m going back to Rome to pick her up!”

Well, this marriage would not suffer from arguments and disputes over leaving the toilet seat up/down or squeezing the toothpaste tube in the middle, but it could hardly be considered a good marriage relationship!

The saying, “To enjoy the rainbow you have to endure the rain” could be applied to marriage.  No relationship will be without disagreements but the preferable answer is not to part, rather to work things out.

One principle we find in the Bible that is helpful is found in Ephesians 4:26.  The Message Bible renders it,  “Go ahead and be angry.  You do well to be angry—but  don’t use your anger as fuel for revenge, and don’t stay angry.  Don’t go to bed angry.  Don’t give the Devil that kind of foothold in your life.”  Yes, sometimes a cooling down period is necessary to prevent us saying something we will regret, but to leave a matter to fester and blow up another day is not healthy.  Anger itself is not a sin—the first part of that same verse in the King James Version says, “Be ye angry, and sin not:”

Building a lasting relationship is hard work, but worth it. In the face of conflict don’t run away, seek to escape, or ignore it hoping it will go away.  Acknowledge disagreement, face it, and deal with it as a mature Christian, praying together the Serenity Prayer:

Prayer
“Lord, grant me the Courage to change the things I can, the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, and the Wisdom to know the difference.”
Amen

Study by Nancy Silcox 

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